Constant Improving and Helping Others #31
Wendy Sweet (00:04):
Hi, welcome to the show today. I’m Wendy Sweet. This is my brother Bill Fairman and my other brother, Jonathan Davis. He’s not really my brother, but we feel that way don’t we? I think so. So we just wanted to spend some time today talking about, you don’t know when this recording is, but tomorrow is Valentine’s day for us, right?
Bill Fairman (00:27):
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Wendy Sweet (00:36):
So, so he’s hung up on that. He won’t let me do it. I’m gonna tell. So here, this is a really, really special time for us in particular, we were really kind of thinking about what the topic should be and we’ve got so much to choose from and you know, where do you start? But because it’s Valentine’s day tomorrow, really started thinking a lot about relationships and how important they are in our lives. So I really started thinking too, because we just lost a really, really dear friend and mentor by the name of Claude Stone. He is, Bill knew him first what? Over 20 years ago, right?
Bill Fairman (01:16):
Yeah. When I first started in the mortgage business, when we were doing me calling on a borrower, and specifically I would call on a mortgage broker because in those days, the companies that had the largest line of credit was the biggest lender. So we had programs and we’d go to these brokers and say, Hey, you know, we have these programs. You can put your borrowers through our, our program and Claude, Oh man. One that ran one of the companies that I used to call.
Wendy Sweet (01:47):
Yeah. Yeah. And he’s, he’s a man that started like a bazillion businesses. He was the kind of guy that would take any kind of business or any idea. He was a great visionary and he would find someone that could run it and basically partner with them and start businesses. He did everything. So cabinets, rehabbed houses, did the mortgage company. It would just went on and on and on. All of the different things that he did and everything he did, he did well. Hey, I met him a little bit after Bill did. And one of the things I, loved so much about this guy’s, he’s blunt, very opinionated unlike us and just wise, I mean he was, he was in his nineties and worked until literally a month. No, he worked until about a month before he passed till about a month ago. And I remember one day he pulled me aside, this was, I don’t know, seven or eight years ago and he said, you know, Wendy, you really need to start dressing different. And I said, really? Cause you know, you don’t talk about what a girl wears. But I have to admit I was getting a little sloppy and wear jeans and some t-shirts every now and again. He said, you need to look like you are a management company for fun. You need, you need to look like who you are. And I said, you are so right, Claude. You know, he, he didn’t make me mad at first I was a little bit, but that’s right.
Wendy Sweet (03:23):
But he was just blunt and everything he did, we would tease him too about how he was so old that he was here when, when Jesus walked on the earth and we would call him ancient and, and just all these great, wonderful things that we teased him about. But he was so, such a great mentor to both bill and I. And what was really cool was that he, he just really cared about us, made it really clear how he felt about us. And, and I thank God that I did the same to him, that I let him know how much he meant to not only me, but my brother bill and my kids. He knows my kids. You know, we used to all go to the same meetings and my, my kids go to those meetings too, investor meetings, so he got to know them.
Wendy Sweet (04:08):
He encouraged them. He was just a really great person. And you know, another person I could bring up is JC Underwood. He passed just a few months ago and you know, he’s another guy that’s just a solid walks with God loves this business, loves helping other people. Had lots of different companies but cared about your success. Yeah. So having just, you know, lost these two great guys in our lives. I thought, wow, it would be a good time for us to encourage others to, you know, the reason why we’re talking about how important these relationships are is because it’s important for all of us to think about who it is that’s really made some changes in your world that’s affected what you do, whether it’s family, business, spiritually, whatever, and let them know what kind, what kind of changes they made. I, I have a, we have a friend John Tom Olsen, who runs good success mastermind.
Wendy Sweet (05:09):
He had the people in his mastermind think of three people that made a change in their life and had each of them write a note to that person, reach out and text him. And I got some notes for those people. I felt so good. I thought, wow. It totally, it changed my outlook, not only for the day, but I mean I, I go back and I think about it constantly about how I was able to affect somebody else’s life. I can’t believe I was able to do that. And that might made me start thinking about, gosh, you know, I could do 150 of those things that people that have changed my life. So Jonathan, who in your life has made a difference? Can you, well, I wouldn’t have to say most recently. You and bill for sure. Oh wow. We didn’t even pay for that one. Don’t we? Don’t worry. Your job is really safe.
Jonathan Davis (05:59):
prior to coming in with you guys, I was only exposed to, you know, the note buying and selling, you know, creating w-2 income for yourself, those sorts of things. And you all have exposed me over the course of several years now to more alternative investment strategies through buying rental properties through self directed IRAs, just all those things. And that has made a big difference for me and my family also. Sure. Awesome. So that’s definitely one. And I mean I have to, my wife, of course,
Wendy Sweet (06:35):
She is pretty awesome. He married up. Yeah, she’s awesome. Yeah,
Jonathan Davis (06:41):
No, she is definitely the key to my success and the grounding that I need. Because, you know, we talked before, I don’t know if you’re, bill and I talked about it, if you’re in the for the smartest person in the room, you’re in the wrong room and you should, you should leave it there for awhile. I enjoyed being the smartest person in the room and she reminds me like, yeah, and that’s not a really great room and you need to leave that one.
Jonathan Davis (07:08):
It definitely keeps me grounded.
Jonathan Davis (07:10):
It’s a big part of our success.
Wendy Sweet (07:12):
Oh that’s awesome. That’s awesome. How about you bill?
Bill Fairman (07:15):
Yeah. If it is all about constantly trying to improve yourself and at the same time lifting up others and now I’m going to have to say, the first person that comes to mind with me is Dr. David Phelps. Now while we kid him, cause he’s a dentist and they’re very introverted and he is one of the biggest introverts. You’d never know it because he speaks in public all the time, but he worked at it to become more comfortable speaking in public. And what he’s done for me. And it’s funny, David and I do not have very long conversations together. We don’t communicate constantly either. But what David has been able to do for me is surround me by others who have constantly have lifted me up and given me the opportunity to better myself, I don’t want to say trained, but I learned from his speaking coach, the person that made him more comfortable in front of folks, not how just to feel comfortable but also communicate better through his mentoring. The people that have been in his, I guess you call it sphere, influence, one of the greatest influencers. And I have so many people within that group that have touched me somehow to better myself in life and in business. I can’t thank him enough for that just for exposing me to that group. So
Wendy Sweet (08:49):
yeah, I’ve, I’ve always talked about how knowing David Phelps has really made a difference. Being in that collective genius mastermind has made a difference. You know, business wise and spiritually. It’s kinda funny cause a lot of the people that are also lifting me up spiritually are also in those groups. And it’s kinda, yeah, it’s pretty awesome that, you know, I don’t have to stop being one person and start being another. It’s, it’s all one, you know, and you don’t have to be a chameleon. That’s the truth. That’s the truth. And I, you know, I’m always attracted, I’m sorry I’m interrupting you, but the people that come to my mind are, are, are, you know, Glenn Stromberg, Tom Olson, you know, Randy Lawrence is another person that these are all people who are really spiritually grounded. There’s a local guy here in town by the name of Paul Olson. Tom and Paul are not related, but he is like the most grounded spiritual person I’ve ever met. I’ve, I’ve never seen anybody have the patients that he has and truly, you know, asks for God to just direct him in every single thing he does and to watch how things are showered on him and blows my mind. Darren Brocklebank is another one that I’m just amazed at his walk. I like watching their walk and seeing how they’re, they’re walking in faith with their business and, and God just showers things on there. She’s not watching him walk. Yeah. Metaphorically.
Wendy Sweet (10:26):
I think they get it. So, uh, the thing about Paul Olson too, he said something to me the other day that I thought was really funny. He was talking about a deal that he was doing on these duplexes. There’s like three of them that he was building in this area of town that’s right on the edge near South park, right on the edge of just turn it into real high ritzy place. But maybe is, maybe it isn’t. And the city has been fighting him on allowing him to build the certain things that he was building on these duplexes that he was building on these properties. And he never got upset about it. He’s been patient. It was a year and a half. And finally they wouldn’t approve the four units he was trying to do, but they would approve three. So in that year and a half though, having those three approved, now that area has absolutely exploded. And instead of making, you know, selling them at 450 a piece, once they’re done, now they’re up in the $900,000 range. And it couldn’t happen to a better guy. I mean, so he’s sitting, unless he says yet God has been teaching me supernatural patients, I love that. I thought that was kinda cool, but
Bill Fairman (11:37):
I wanted to go back to that chameleon thing and having to put on a different face to be in different groups. One of the things that these groups that we’re in basically tell us to do, and we learned this, there is, don’t be the chameleon be who you are. That’s right. Because eventually you’re only going to attract people that are like you. And if you are constantly who you are, then what ends up happening in not just life, but in business, you’re going to repel the people that you don’t need to be around the headaches for sure. And you’re going to track the ones that you do because you are who you are and you’re not deviating do not try to be everything to everyone.
Wendy Sweet (12:25):
That’s exactly right. But the point of this whole talk really is think of who in your life has made a difference. Think of someone in your life that’s made a difference in your business, someone in your family and someone in your spiritual walk and thank them. Tell them, let them know the changes that they’ve done for you, the changes, the things that they’ve made you look, look at and, and the changes that you’ve made in your life because of the influence that they’ve made on you. Because it’ll, it’ll absolutely send them soaring and, and they’ll do more. That’s what’s really cool. They’ll spread that out to others too.
Bill Fairman (13:02):
Well with Tom made the exercise, Tom had you do with it. Send people the notes. Yeah. I’m thinking my note was going to be, I’m going to be part of the 10 biggest mistakes people make. Thanks. You’ve been, influenced my life.
Wendy Sweet (13:19):
Don’t send them notes. You really stink and I don’t really want to be around you anymore. Yeah, that’s probably not, not wise, but just think about that. So you’ve spent another great opportunity here with us today to listen to our great wisdom.
Bill Fairman (13:33):
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